To close out the day, author, podcaster, and advocate Ellidy Pullin sat down with Ray White Head of Organisational Development Natalie Hortz to speak on loss, resilience, and rebuilding life after sudden tragedy.
Natalie pointed out that despite everything, Ellidy still carried an “infectious zest for life”.
“One of the biggest things I have learnt is to block out the noise and realise who is important to me,” Ellidy said.
Ellidy reflected on the past six years and the sudden loss of her partner Alex "Chumpy" Pullin - a three-time Olympian, two-time snowboard cross world champion, and Australian flag bearer.
“He was annoyingly good at everything - effortlessly kind, talented, and grounded. Talking about him always served as a reminder of how she wanted to live,” Ellidy said.
In July 2020, Covid travel restrictions had kept Chumpy home on the Gold Coast.
He went spearfishing alone, sank to the ocean floor, and was pulled unconscious onto the beach, Ellidy said.
The first year following Chumpy’s death was a blur of shock that still resurfaces.
They had already been trying for a baby; Ellidy had a low egg count, and IVF was their next step.
Thirty-six hours after Chumpy died, urged on by close friends Laura and Chloe, a doctor completed a posthumous sperm retrieval.
Six months later, Ellidy began the IVF process. Fifteen months after his death, their daughter, Minnie, was born - a spitting image of her father.
When Nat asked how she talks to Minnie about him, Ellidy replied that Minnie was never kept in the dark.
“She grows up listening to his music and constantly yapping about her dad,” she said.
Ellidy ignored the outside opinions and judgment around her choice to have him posthumously.
Through her podcast, people navigating their own life-shattering events reach out daily, telling her that seeing her move forward showed them there was still light at the end of the tunnel.
Years’ later she has found love again, with her partner Brock.
She said he has been respectful of what she has gone through and really involved in Mini’s life.
“Love and relationships are meant to be easy - I am so blessed to have this after everything.”